How can I tell if my child is being bullied?

Many children do not tell their parents about being bullied.  Each child is different and may react to bullying in many different ways.  Below is a list of possible warning signs that a child is being bullied:

• Comes home with torn, damaged, or missing pieces of clothing, books, or other belongings;
• Has unexplained cuts, bruises, and scratches;
• Has few, if any friends, with whom he or she spends time;
• Seems afraid of going to school, walking to and from school, riding the school bus, or taking part in organized activities with peers (such as clubs);
• Takes a long, "illogical" route when walking to or from school;
• Has lost interest in school work or suddenly begins to do poorly in school;
• Appears sad, moody, teary, or depressed when he or she comes home;
• Complains frequently of headaches, stomachaches, or other physical ailments;
• Has trouble sleeping or has frequent bad dreams;
• Experiences a loss of appetite; or
• Appears anxious and suffers from low self-esteem

What can I do if my child is being bullied?

If your child is being bullied it is important to know the steps to take to help your child resolve bullying conflicts. It is important to remain calm and record facts about the situation.

1. Focus on your child. Be supportive and gather information about the bullying.
2. Contact your child's teacher or principal.
3. Work with local authorities if you feel that you child is in danger.
4. If you know your child is being bullied, take quick action. There is nothing worse than doing nothing, and bullying can have serious effects.

If, after talking with your child and staff at his or her school, you don't believe your child is being bullied, be alert to other possible problems your child may be having. Share your concerns with a counselor at your child's school

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